My current thoughts are as follows:
- She is not honest
- She knew we had "disagreed" yet she kept saying to my friend last night "I was nice to L" and "I wasn't rude to L" and "I was sympathetic". ALL untrue.
- She approached my friend by saying "You looked at me and I thought you wanted to talk" - that is a lie as she only said "I am going to speak to Y's Mum" when I asked to speak with W, and had to go off to the nursery room, to find her to do so, which means they did not even talk in private whereas W and I did.
- I really cannot at all abide liars, even when it is done to get one out of a fix!
- She is lacking management skills to have handled Tuesday night the way she did.
- She has the wrong priorities. She kept stressing to my friend last night that she is now going to have to write to ALL parents to say that if you get another parent to collect your child they cannot wait in reception. This seems to be her priority. Typical public services. She should first be making this right with the people that participated in what took place. With public services I have noticed it is all about policy and procedure. You know what? I am happy with that but where were they on Tuesday night? They were severely lacking!
- All of this proves to me that I did the right thing in going above her head because
- She just doesn't get it.
- She seems manipulative (going to Y's Mum to "get her on side")
- Because she doesn't "get it" I would never have got an apology, so going formal is the only way that will happen.
- Looking after children's welfare DOES NOT stop when a clock strikes 18:14. I stress again what I have stressed before. What if one of them had got run over. It was my first time collecting Aaron in the dark and neither of them had a buggy and they are both only 2 years old.
- She doesn't have empathy, sympathy, or the good grace to see when she is being insensitive.
- Parents (as well as the children) need to be treated with respect.
- You do NOT argue with somebody about what THEY agreed to, when they KNOW what they agreed to. And at no point between 6 and 6:15 did she attempt to speak to me, or call Y's Mum (on Tuesday).
- This morning I have had to sign a consent form, so that Aaron can meet and handle reptiles and spiders at 10 a.m. yet I did not have to sign a form to say that I was collecting "Y" (a) because the people that gave him to me KNEW that I was only waiting in reception with him and (b) that means there wasn't the paperwork trail to back up what G was insisting to me, meaning that if (c) the worst happened on the way home, she would not have had a (paper) leg to stand on, if I said all of the things I am saying now. Meaning she should be humble enough or human enough, that when someone tells you WHAT they agreed to, you should either (a) make a new agreement and (b) believe them.
- I say "make a new agreement", as say it had all gone very differently, where they WERE still stuck at station X, AND it got so late that I DID have to leave, and say she WAS nice about asking me to leave. Then she should have been saying, I need you to sign Y out, so that you are assuming parental control for him. THIS WAS NOT DONE. And you know what, even if it was not that formal, all she needed to have done, was be pleased that they were near. Remember my original post, I went to her to say I have phoned them and they are one stop away. She did not give a shit...! Why not? She stops being professional just because the little hand says 6 and the big hand says 15 (or rather 14)?????
She is going to speak to everyone I named. Only trouble is, the parent who was also delayed, who took a different route and did get there. The one who was in reception with me and witnessed it all. Despite being a "friend" I know he doesn't want to get involved. While we walked down the road and before the delayed parents pulled up in their car, (Tuesday) he did not want to talk about it (I think he was stressed at the journey he had just gone through to try and get there on time) - if he says the same to the nursery, when W calls him today, it will be my word against G's and I don't want to get into that arena :-(
It is a shame as he is very outspoken and very opinionated and I know he'd feel the same if he was on the receiving end of what I was, so I hope he has my back on this one.
If this really kicks off, I could lose 2 friends (both other parents) and I would be GUTTED if that happens.
Anyway, one of the reasons I am doing this is to ensure that G never speaks to another parent the way she did to me, so I hope I at least get that result out of it.
A couple of people on Facebook have told me I should complain to Offsted but I have checked and they have ZERO complaints so I DO NOT want to rock the boat by being the first.
Update to come later once I have met W at 17:30 - give me chance to get home though first eh... :-)