For me the battle has been all mine. It's never been about whether Aaron is ready - the worries are all my own, and have been since he was a year old and he'll be two and a half in 7 days!!!!
I visited my Great Aunt a few months ago and she could not believe he was still in nappies, informing me she had my cousin dry by 11 months... No pressure then!
Then last weekend I spent the weekend in Folkestone and my friend literally gave me homework, in the form of 3 Bs which quickly became 5.
- Bum - get him out of nappies
- Bottle - get him off his bottles (still on 3 a day)
- Bed - get him out of our bed (he cosleeps with us)
Later on we made it five by adding on B for behaviour and B for ... can't remember the 5th one...
Everyone had said toilet training is easier in Summer. I was out of work all Summer so I had the time to dedicate to it, and yet I always had an excuse. So so so very many excuses.
NOW I have everything: the seat, the training pants, the pull ups, everything! Aaron is more than ready and has been for a long time. So yesterday he told me about a poo BEFORE he did it, and I sat him on his mickey mouse toilet seat on the big loo, and because it was FREEZING he hopped off. Our loo is the only room out of 6 that does not have a radiator.
So how bad did I feel then!!!!! Knowing that this is yet another reason I should have done it in Summer like EVERYONE told me.
Today, because he remembers yesterday's experience, when I took his night time nappy off, I was going to put pull ups on, but because he associates them with the loo (the COLD loo) he would not let me and insisted I put a nappy on him. I was GUTTED!
At nursery it is VERY warm and he is forever asking them if he can go to the toilet. But they won't start it till I do so at home...
So I went on a forum today and admitted all of my concerns and fears, and it was so refreshing to have so many mums commenting back that they have left it as late as I have.
No doubt there were some reading who thought "you idiot get on with it, I did it a year ago" but those thinking that, stayed respectfully silent, so there was a cheerful gang of us effectively saying "it's alright mate" :-)
But it worries me, SO SO much. It is like a weight on my shoulder.
So I think I may get a bit religious and pray on it. I did buy a book the other day called The Power of a Praying Parent, and I have A LOT to be praying about.
It is so much on my mind, that I want to start praying about everything, to pass it over into God's hands, that when I heard G+ had started communities, the FIRST thing I did was set up a "Praying Parent" community.
The photo for the community, is one I personally took in Malta.
Feel free to join me there, if you are that way inclined.
I know it sounds so silly when some people have REAL problems, but trust me I have some of those too...